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Wednesday, January 30, 2013

So What Wednesday

So What Wednesday

I'm back to linking up for So What Wednesday!!
This week I'm saying So What If...

  • I haven't worked out the past couple of days.
  • Lincoln & I have had the TV on most of the day. We both woke up with a cold, so it was a relax and stay cozy kind of day.
  • Gabe's schedule is changing at work and it's only his 2nd day.
  • I'm trying to lose weight, yet have been baking about once a week this entire month.
  • Lincoln & I spent all day in our pajamas.
  • I didn't finish the two books I checked out from the library. I realized I own far too many books that I haven't read, so I really shouldn't be checking any out from the library.
  • Gabe has an hour commute to work and we don't plan on looking into moving until the end of this year/the beginning of next year. 
  • I have no idea what I'm going to write blog posts on this week.
and that's what I'm saying So What to this week.
What are you saying So What to this week?


Monday, January 28, 2013

Big Changes

So, last night in my list of what I was getting ready for I said that I would write a blog post about some big changes that are starting in our lives this week. So here it is.

Tomorrow Gabe has his first day at his new job. That's right, he got a new job! I'm so super excited for him and for us. Our daily schedule is going to be a bit different, but it'll all work out. We are just so excited to start a new chapter in our lives and work towards more new things. Since the job is a bit of a commute we are going to be moving eventually. We have talked some and think that it would be best to save up to buy a place. We have lived in rentals for the past 6 1/2 years and would like to own our own place soon. I hope that we get to move to the town I am more in favor of since it would be closer to most of my friends from mommy group. Overall, I'm just really really excited and super proud of Gabe.

Since things are changing I have made some decisions for myself. I have decided to put off going back to school for awhile. I have decided that for now I am going to focus on being a stay-at-home and finish my book (finally). I'm also seriously considering homeschooling Lincoln. I am just not comfortable with sending him off to school anytime soon and I feel that he would get a better education from homeschooling. The town I want to move to has a homeschooling school that I plan to look into very soon. I am happy with all of these changes and I am very happy with the choices I have made for my own future. I know that I said in a previous post that I wanted to open up my own cupcakery, but I would rather work from home I've realized.

I'm proud of us for making all of these choices and for all of these exciting changes. I'm proud of Gabe for finding a really good new job and I just cannot wait to see what else this year brings us!

Sunday, January 27, 2013

It's Sunday & I'm Getting Ready For...

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I haven't done this in awhile, but here we go. It's Sunday & I'm Getting Ready For...

  • Work tomorrow, as usual. I had last week off, so tomorrow may be a bit busy. Which will be nice.
  • A big change in our schedule, which I will share in a blog post tomorrow.
  • Mine & Lincoln's weekly trip to the library. He has really gotten into the human body and how it works and, actually, how a lot of things work. He is just so curious about how things in the world around him function.
  • Hopefully, some time out with a friend or two. I've been trying to get myself out more and Lincoln & I out, as well. It's nice to socialize with people other than my family from time to time and it's good for Lincoln to socialize with other children.
  • Working on my novel. I've only been working on it for the past 4 1/2 years, it's about time I really work on it and finish it which is my plan.
  • Getting back into blogging more. I know in the past month I haven't been blogging as much as I was before. But one of my resolutions for this year was to get back into blogging more. 
  • Continuing our new workout regime, which has been going very well. The past few days we have slowed down a bit due to some pulled muscles. But we are doing much better than we were before and it feels great to be working out and getting in better shape.
  • Enjoying some time outside with Lincoln. The weather is supposed to be beautiful this week, so we will definitely be spending some time out in the sunshine.
and that's what I'm getting ready for this week.

What are you getting ready for this week?


Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Tearing Each Other Down

I know it's late, but I had to write this post tonight.

my favorite breastfeeding pic of me & Lincoln. June 2009.
On my person Facebook page I am attending a virtual event. It's to show my support for breastfeeding, women, mothers, and pictures of breastfeeding that are being removed by FB. But this post tonight is not about that. I am writing this post because I am tired of reading about women tearing each other down. Once upon a time women were fighting side by side for equal rights. We were standing up for our rights as women and we were standing up to men. Because once it was men that pushed women down. It was men that were in control of everything, women didn't have rights. We were viewed as lesser than men. Then we decided that enough was enough and we had to let the men know that we were human beings just like them. But now I am seeing women tearing each other down for the choices we make.

This has become most prevalent to me in the parenting community. Everyone has a different parenting style and no two people are going to parent exactly alike, because no two people are exactly alike in any way. I have written about Mommy Guilt before on this blog and about breastfeeding. I think that a lot of Mommy Guilt has to do with the fact that there are other mothers out there that feel it is there place and there right to tell other mothers what they are doing "wrong" and how to parent "correctly". I would like to come clean and say that I used to be like this in some ways. I used to think that every mother should give birth to her child drug-free and naturally. I used to think that you should feed your child on a schedule and that co-sleeping was for parents that didn't want any intimacy. But I educated myself and found that everyone is different and everyone has to do what they feel is right for them. I found that I could not consider myself open-minded if I talked down about women that chose to give birth to their child in a hospital via c-section. Everyone has their reasons for birthing the way they do and parenting the way they do. The only time anyone should intervene when it comes to parenting is when there is abuse and neglect.

breastfeeding Lincoln while camping. July 2009.
I just think that women and mothers and parents should be supporting one another. Not berating each other for the way we choose to feed our child or care for our child or birth our child. We should be able to turn to one another in times of need for advice. I am glad that I have the group of mothers I know to turn to and ask for advice when I need it. I am so happy to receive all the wonderful advice that I do and I am happy to be able to give advice and support other mothers and parents. We should lift each other up, not tear each other down. Being a parent can be very hard work at times. It can be frustrating and exhausting. The last thing we need when we are having a bad day is for someone to tell us what a horrible job we're doing. Parents always need other parents in their corner. As parents we are constantly judging ourselves and second guessing, we don't need someone else to do this for us. We also need to realize that no one is perfect and there aren't any perfect parents out there. We all do the best we can when it comes to raising our children. Everyone makes mistakes and that's okay. We learn from our mistakes. Everyone has tough days and on those days we may need someone to turn to, a shoulder to cry on, someone to hug, someone to be understanding. Sometimes you just need someone to be there to support you and sometimes it's nice when that person is going through a similar situation or has been in a similar situation. Someone to tell you that it's okay, everything will be okay.

As parents we need to remember to be compassionate towards each other. We need to remember to lift each other up, not push each other down. No one parents is better than another. We are all different and unique in the ways that we care for our children. While we may not agree with other choices that parents make (and I include myself in this), that doesn't mean we have the right to tell that parent they were wrong for making the choice that they did. Everyone makes the choices that they feel are right for them and their situation and that they feel will for work for them and their family. I think that the majority of Mommy Guilt can be attributed to parents making each other feel wrong for choices that they make in their parenting style. Please stop this.

It is very late and I am beginning to feel a bit repetitive, but I just really wanted to get my point across. So, please remember to be supportive of fellow parents. And let us all remember I'm sure we were taught as children, "if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all". It's really as simple as that.

Blogly Question(s):

What are all of your thoughts on this matter?


Wednesday, January 2, 2013

So What Wednesday

So What Wednesday

I figured I've skipped this the past few weeks, so why not do it this week. This week I'm saying So What if...

  • I keep thinking today is Thursday. 
  • Nutella is my new favorite treat.
  • I've been re-watching Jersey Shore.
  • I have no idea what I'm going to do when it comes to starting school for myself and Lincoln.
  • I don't really feel like going to the library this week, even though we have a movie on hold.
  • I had a "feeling sorry for myself" moment today.
  • I haven't started a weight loss diet for one of my new year's resolutions.
  • I keep thinking about waking up early and working out and haven't done it yet.
  • I love Christmas, but hate winter. I cannot wait for it to be warm enough to sun bathe again.
  • I want to start tanning, even though I know it's horrible for my skin.
and that's what I'm saying So What to this week.
What are you saying So What to this week?


The Television Watching Conundrum

one of my favorite shows when I was kid.
During these cold, gloomy, and occasionally wet winter days we watch a bit of television. When I was growing up I was mostly allowed to watch PBS and occasionally Nickelodeon (when we had cable). Any television shows I watched on Nickelodeon had to be approved by my parents and one or both of them were usually there watching the shows with me, so that they knew what I was watching and learning about. Of course, when I was a kid television shows were a lot different than they are now. When we had cable I remember watching Eureka's Castle, The Fred Penner Show, and Sharon, Lois & Bram's Elephant Show. I also remember watching Sesame Street and Mr. Roger's Neighborhood on PBS. As I look back on these shows now I remember how much I enjoyed them and all of the education they had involved in them, as well. Now television shows for kids are more so there to keep your child entertained for the most part.

I'm fine with letting Lincoln watch television. The majority of the year we spend quite a bit of time outside, so I figure when it's cold and rainy it's okay to stay warm inside and have the TV on. But I have learned recently that we have to keep a close eye on what Lincoln is watching. We have had to stop letting him watch two shows in the past few weeks because we noticed that he was learning bad behavior from characters on the shows. So, we made the decision the other evening that if Lincoln wants to watch a television show then it has to be educational for the most part or he can watch one of the many movies we have. Even though the majority of our movies are Disney/animated features and not educational at all, we're okay with Lincoln watching them because we've watched them tons of times and they are also movies that Gabe and I watched when we were kids. Plus, a lot of them have a good message to them overall.

reading a book to Lincoln. One of the many other activities we enjoy together.
We don't have cable or an antenna. We watch television shows through Netflix streaming for the most part. So, I am happy that Lincoln doesn't see commercials. When we do go on vacation or if we are at a friends house and we are watching something and a commercial comes on Lincoln gets confused and wonders where is show has gone. I'm glad that he isn't being exposed to consumerism by seeing so many commercials, like I did when I was younger. PBS doesn't have any commercials and I don't remember seeing any commercials when we had cable. But I do remember that when my brother and I got a bit older and our family got cable again and we were allowed to watch television shows on other channels that we did see a lot of commercials. When it would get close to our birthdays or Christmas and we saw commercials for stuff we wanted we would tell each other "oh I want that, get it for me for my birthday" or "get it for me for Christmas". When I look back on that now I realize how consumed we were with getting stuff that was being advertised to us. Now that I have lived so long without having "actual" television I get annoyed by commercials.

busy building something with his blocks.
When it all comes down to it I know that I shouldn't really let my child watch that much television. But I also know what is okay and not okay for him to watch. I figure if he is learning something then it's okay for him to watch. If it appears that he could learn a bad behavior or nothing at all from the show then I won't let him watch it. I also know that Lincoln is more interested in playing with his toys and using his imagination than watching television, for the most part. Some days it's nice to have the television on and watch something and learn some new things, but most of the time I am glad that Lincoln gets Gabe and I to turn off our television and our computers and play games using our imaginations or building things with his toys. Even though sometimes I feel like we maybe watch too much TV or are on our computers to much, I am happy that my son has learned to use his mind and imagination. He tells us to turn off the TV, so that he can play with his toys and I'm happy for that.

Blogly Question(s):

How do you feel about letting your child(ren) watch TV? how much (if any) do you allow them to watch daily?