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Monday, September 9, 2013

Acceptance

I know it's been forever since I posted, but I'm going to try and get back into this. So here it goes:

 Today I have been thinking a lot about parents accepting their children for who they are. I know that many, if not most, parents do this. We want our children to be happy and healthy and to grow up to be happy, loving, healthy, stable adults. We want what's best for our child and we want them to grow and
become their own individual person. We want them to be the person that makes them happy and we want them to do things in life that make them happy. But I do know there are parents out there that are selfish and want their children to do the things that make them, the parent, happy. But what if what you want for your child and what would make you happy isn't what would make them happy?

For example, if you suspect that your child may be homosexual and that's not what you want for them are you going to try and steer them in a more heterosexual direction with sports or dance or the people they socialize with? If your daughter acts too much like a boy or you son acts too much like a girl are you, as a parent, going to try and make them behave the opposite just for your own comfort and happiness? Because, to me, that's not right. Why not just let your child be the person that they are happy being. Let your son take ballet and wear pink, if that's what makes him happy. Let your daughter play football and wear baggy clothes, if that's what makes her happy.

I don't believe in gender roles. I don't believe in boy colors or girl colors. I don't believe that only men can be construction workers, firemen, or a stunt person. I also don't believe that only women can be maids, dancers, or fashion designers. These are gender stereotypes that have been built up in our society and are being torn down. We should be teaching this to our children. We should be teaching them that it doesn't matter if they are a boy or a girl that they can do what ever makes them happy in life and they can love whoever makes them happy.

If you're afraid that your child is going to be the opposite of what you want want them to be, then you need to look inside yourself and figure out where that fear is coming from. What was instilled in you that made you fear so much? Because here's the thing, just because your daughter acts masculine or your son acts feminine doesn't mean they're going to be homosexual and just because your daughter acts feminine and your son acts masculine doesn't meant they're going to be straight. It has nothing to do with their behavior and what their sexual orientation will be. The other thing too is that they're children and you won't know what they're sexual orientation is until they tell you. Be that they tell
you with words or with actions. Oh and if you're so concerned with what your child's sexual orientation is going to be, before they reach sexual maturity then you really need to sit down and think why you are so concerned with that, because that is not what defines a person.

So please, just love and accept your children for who they are. Let them play and learn about the world around them. Let them be free to be who they want to be. In the long run they'll be happier and so will you. You do not need to worry about the person they will become while they are still a child, just let them be a child and have fun.



 

2 comments:

  1. Hi Summer! Glad to have stumbled upon your blog! I was wondering if you feature guest postings. Thanks and have a great day!

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    1. Hi Hannah! I actually don't feature guest postings at this time. It's something I have thought about and may consider in the future. As you can see I haven't written a blog positing in quite a few months. I imagine that to change fairly soon as I have some topics I would like to write on and seeing as my little guy will be starting kindergarten this Fall, I will have more free time to write. I will keep you posted though on if I decide to feature guest postings.

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