|my favorite breastfeeding pic of me & Lincoln. June 2009.|
This has become most prevalent to me in the parenting community. Everyone has a different parenting style and no two people are going to parent exactly alike, because no two people are exactly alike in any way. I have written about Mommy Guilt before on this blog and about breastfeeding. I think that a lot of Mommy Guilt has to do with the fact that there are other mothers out there that feel it is there place and there right to tell other mothers what they are doing "wrong" and how to parent "correctly". I would like to come clean and say that I used to be like this in some ways. I used to think that every mother should give birth to her child drug-free and naturally. I used to think that you should feed your child on a schedule and that co-sleeping was for parents that didn't want any intimacy. But I educated myself and found that everyone is different and everyone has to do what they feel is right for them. I found that I could not consider myself open-minded if I talked down about women that chose to give birth to their child in a hospital via c-section. Everyone has their reasons for birthing the way they do and parenting the way they do. The only time anyone should intervene when it comes to parenting is when there is abuse and neglect.
|breastfeeding Lincoln while camping. July 2009.|
As parents we need to remember to be compassionate towards each other. We need to remember to lift each other up, not push each other down. No one parents is better than another. We are all different and unique in the ways that we care for our children. While we may not agree with other choices that parents make (and I include myself in this), that doesn't mean we have the right to tell that parent they were wrong for making the choice that they did. Everyone makes the choices that they feel are right for them and their situation and that they feel will for work for them and their family. I think that the majority of Mommy Guilt can be attributed to parents making each other feel wrong for choices that they make in their parenting style. Please stop this.
It is very late and I am beginning to feel a bit repetitive, but I just really wanted to get my point across. So, please remember to be supportive of fellow parents. And let us all remember I'm sure we were taught as children, "if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all". It's really as simple as that.
What are all of your thoughts on this matter?