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Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Halloween & So What Wednesday

It's pouring down rain here. But we braved it & took Lincoln out trick-or-treating. We met up with some friends. Lincoln had a blast going trick-or-treating with his friend, P. Lincoln went as a robot & looked adorable and P was a little kitty and she was just as adorable. Even though it was pouring down rain we all had a blast. Lincoln got tons of compliments on his costume & I can't wait to make next year's costume and see what he chooses to be. Now, Gabe & I have a bit of candy to eat since we didn't get any trick-or-treaters & we are doing another smoothie diet starting tomorrow. I'm doing mine for 14 days and I'm looking forward to cleansing my system, losing weight, and actually sticking to it this time.

Now it's time to link up for So What Wednesday.

So What Wednesday

This week I'm saying So What if....

  • it was pouring down rain & we still went trick-or-treating. We had a blast!
  • Gabe & I are going to put ourselves in a sugar coma with all this candy. It tastes good & I'll cleanse it out with this diet & exercise.
  • Gabe & I will probably stay up late again tonight. It's Halloween & we plan to watch some zombie movies after Lincoln goes to bed.
  • I have just remembered that NaNoWriMo starts tomorrow. I have some sort of vague idea of what I'll be writing about this year.
  • my computer is slightly broken & I have to share Gabe's computer with him for about a week. I'll figure it out & just deal with it over the next few days while I wait for my replacement part to arrive.
  • The pictures I picked up from Costco two weeks ago are just now getting put into the photo album. It's getting done & have to share a computer is ensuring that I will be getting some other things done that don't involve having to be online or on a computer at all, for that matter.
  • We let Lincoln stay up late & fall asleep watching movies last night. He took a nap today & is in a much better mood than he has been the past few evenings. 
  • We are letting Lincoln stay up late again tonight. He's in such a good mood & behaving so nicely. I'm sure if he snuggled up with one of us & we put on a movie he would fall asleep fairly easily.
and that's what I'm saying So What to this week.
What are you saying So What to this week? 
and did you have a good Halloween?


Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Tomorrow Night

Lincoln & I at the Pumpkin Patch (Oct. 2010)
The pumpkin is carved and Lincoln's costume is almost done. We have bought the candy and have even eaten a bit too. I will be dressing up as a fairy & Lincoln will be a robot. Gabe will be nothing, because he doesn't much care for the holidays. Lincoln is very excited and the past few nights has said that once the sun goes down it's Halloween. He doesn't like waiting & is learning about patience. I'm excited to take Lincoln out trick-or-treating and I'm excited to hand out candy after we take Lincoln out. Lincoln & I may go to a Halloween party in the afternoon at a friends house. It's sure to be a tons of fun kind of day. 

I love Halloween, I have for as long as I can remember. Lincoln is showing the same sort of enthusiasm and excitement for Halloween that I have. It's just so much fun for me to dress up as someone or something else for a night and I love seeing everyone else's costumes. I also enjoy seeing the little kids that are out for the first time, they're just so cute. 

Lincoln with his pumpkin, which Gabe carved. (2012)
Lincoln tried on his costume tonight & he looked pretty darn cute too. He is super excited to go out in his homemade robot costume and go trick-or-treating. Gabe & I have also decided that we are going to make Lincoln's costume every year until he's old enough to do it himself. It's just more fun to make your own costume instead of going to the store and buying some mass generated one that tons of other kids will probably be wearing, as well. Growing up it varied from year to year if I wore a store bought costume or a homemade one. I can remember most of my costumes growing up and I know I was so excited to get ready for Halloween and I would start preparing and thinking up costume ideas in August. 

I'm looking forward to tomorrow night. Remember to be safe whatever your plans may be & I'm sorry to those on the East Coast that are dealing with the horror of mother nature. I pray that everyone on that side of the country stays the safest and that no more tragedy is headed their way. For those of you that are able to enjoy the festivities of Halloween, I hope you all have fun!

Blogly Question(s):

What are your children going as this year for Halloween? Will you be dressing up, as well? Do you prefer homemade over store bought when it comes to costumes?


Sunday, October 28, 2012

It's Sunday & I'm Getting Ready For....

So, last night Gabe & I went out on a date. We have not had a date night in months & it was wonderful. We went and saw Bill Engvall at the Wells Fargo Center for the Arts. We laughed so much that my cheeks hurt by the end of the show. We missed seeing him 3 years ago when he performed at the same venue. That time he performed at the end of June & I wasn't sure if Lincoln was going to be born on time or late so we didn't buy tickets, which was good because Lincoln was born right on time. We had a great time & it was so wonderful to go out on a date. Anyways, It's Sunday and you all know what that means. I will be posting my list of what I'm getting ready for. You'll notice that I have an image/button (non-functioning yet) this week. I am working on making some buttons for my blog which I will put in the sidebar once they are all done and I'm happy with them and I'm thinking about making these Sunday posts available for you all to link up. I'll let you know when all of this stuff becomes possible/available.

Okay so here is what I'm getting ready for this week:


  • Work tomorrow, as usual. It should be a short & quick day as my boss will not be there.
  • After work I will be picking up Lincoln & running some errands while Gabe finishes up work.
  • On Tuesday Lincoln & I will be making our weekly trip to the library. I have a few books & a movie on hold for him there. 
  • We will be finishing up Lincoln's Halloween costume this week too. We have put two coats of spray paint on it and we may put on a third. We also have to do some duct taping.
  • Wednesday is Halloween which Lincoln & I cannot wait for (Gabe could care less, he hates the holidays). Lincoln & I will be going to a Halloween party in the afternoon and then Gabe & I will take him trick-or-treating in the evening. I know, I know, I wrote a post about not taking kids trick-or-treating not that long ago, but we talked about & we figured we would let him this year.
  • I'm sure on Thursday Lincoln & I will be taking it easy after a day of partying and a night of trick-or-treating.
  • On Friday Gabe & I will be taking Lincoln to his first movie in the theater. We're taking him to see Wreck-it Ralph and I can't wait. I'm hoping that he'll behave and we'll all have lots of fun and enjoy the movie.
and that's what I'm getting ready for this week.
What are you all getting ready for this week? is everyone ready for Halloween?


Friday, October 26, 2012

Write, Write, Write

I don't know if any of you have heard of NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) or if any of you participate in it. For those of you that don't know what it is I will explain. It takes place every November and you try (and hopefully accomplish) writing a novel (50,000 words) in 30 days. I have participated the past two years and I enjoy it, it's a really great challenge. The first year I only got to halfway and last year I was only 12,000 words short of completing it. This year I am determined to get to 50,000 words in 30 days. There are rules you have to follow. You have to work on a completely original piece and you can't have written it out at all really, you can write down an outline and ideas. There are also many different genres you can write in. It's a lot of fun and you can connect with people in your region that are participating, as well. It's also a great challenge for us aspiring writers. I plan on participating this year, but I'm a little worried about balancing writing my quota for each day and blogging. I know it's going to be a lot of work, but I'm up for it. I love writing, that's one of the reasons I started blogging. I also know that writing is good for keeping my mind sharp. I have always enjoyed writing since I was very young. If any of you are planning on participating in NaNoWriMo this year let me know and I can add you to my writing buddies on there. It's really great to have people to connect with on there in case you get stuck and need some support. I am thinking that in order to stay on top of all this writing coming up in a few days I should write out a list of topics to blog about so that I don't get stuck and am not able to post for a few days. I'm looking forward to it all & can't wait!

Blogly Question(s):

Have any of you heard of NaNoWriMo? are you planning on participating this year?

Thursday, October 25, 2012

Helping Out Friends

So, about a month ago I posted about my friends and their 3-year-old son who has leukemia. I also mentioned that the mommy group we are apart of was putting together a fundraiser for them. Well, we had the fundraiser this past Saturday and it went splendid. We raised a very large amount of money and we put together a great event. During the planning of this fundraiser I blogged a couple times about my stress and frustration. After thinking it over I felt that I should clarify a bit. I wasn't upset with having to help in putting this event together, I volunteered to help. It's just that some times we all need to vent. I just felt at times that there was so lack of communication, which was totally on my part as well as other peoples. I also think that some of the stress & frustration came from the fact that this is the most I can do to help these friends of mine. I cannot magically cure their son or make it so cancer doesn't exist at all. I can't make any of this go away for them and I wish I could. I wish that no child ever had to go through this, that no family ever had to go through this. I wish that things like cancer didn't exist, as I'm sure many of you do too. I was stressed & frustrated during the planning of this great event because I felt that I was failing at my tasks and I didn't want to fail my friends. Here I was doing the most I could for my friends and their son and I felt like I was failing at it. And that made me feeling like I was failing them in a way. I love all of my friends very dearly and I never want to see anything bad happen to them. But the fact of the matter is that some times bad things do happen to those we love and care for. If I could I would make it so nothing bad happened to anyone ever. No one deserves to go through things like this. Yet it happens and we do all that we can for those that we love & care about when they are going through things like this. But none of us can do the one thing we all want to do, which is take away the bad thing. But, I think it is good if our friends that are going through bad times or dealing with an illness know that they have friends like myself and the rest of our mommy group that is here supporting them & praying for them & constantly sending them healing & loving thoughts and is willing to work hard at putting together a fundraiser for them. If they know that there is a community here pulling together doing all that they can in their time of need then that is the best we can do and it's a wonderful thing that we are able to do this for our friends.

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

So What Wednesday

So What Wednesday

This week I'm saying So What if....

  • As much as I enjoy the rain and I'm glad we've gotten a bit over the past few days I wish the sun would come back. I just love going outside with Lincoln for an hour or so every day and when it rains it makes it harder to do this.
  • I skipped SWW last week and did a regular Overly Opinionated post instead. I wasn't even thinking about it being Wednesday.
  • As proud & happy I am about how well all of us mommies did with the fundraiser, I'm kind of glad it's over. It was so much fun to do and I hope that we do go through with creating our own non-profit. It was just a lot of work (and all for a good cause mind you). I can't remember the last time I worked that hard and all for a great cause.
  • I took a nap on the couch with Lincoln on Monday evening. It's been a long time since I've snuggled with him like that and it was just such a precious moment.
  • I haven't worked on my novel in over a month. I know where it's going, I just haven't had the urge to work on it or add to it right now. 
  • I keep forgetting that NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) is right around the corner and I don't even know if I'm going to participate this year.
  • We haven't gone shopping for anything Halloween related yet. We plan to on Friday, but we usually put it off until the last minute. 
  • I already voted & I didn't vote for Obama like I'm sure so many people expected me to. Don't worry, I didn't vote for Romney. Gabe & I have decided to vote 3rd part from now on.
  • I've fallen behind in episodes on some of the shows I watch because I've been watching scary movies to get in the Halloween mood & I've been watching Big Love, again from the beginning. 
  • I haven't blogged about the family emergency we've been dealing with for the past week. It's something I think my family would rather I didn't share with strangers & blogging about other topics keeps my mind off of it.
  • I've been staying up late again. I like staying up late & I haven't had any issues with getting up in the morning.
  • I know I need to get out and have some me time. I've just been enjoying spending time with Lincoln & taking him to do things.
and that's what I'm saying So What to this week.
What are you saying So What to this week?


Stuck In My Head

Roger Miller on The Muppet Show circa 1979
Have you ever had a song stuck in your head or just one part of a song? That's what's going on in my head right now. I have this song by Roger Miller called Do-Whacka-Do stuck in my head. Now I'm sure plenty of you have no idea who Roger Miller is, don't worry I don't know who he is either. All I know is he sings 3 very catchy songs that I've heard before, this one included. The chorus has been stuck in my head all day & I've been going around the house singing it and even Lincoln has joined in with singing it. The first time I heard this song was on an episode of the TV show "Raising Hope". If you haven't watched this show I highly recommend it. It's hilarious. The song sounded so ridiculous that I wasn't sure if it was a real song or not. So, today I looked it up online since it has been stuck in my head since yesterday afternoon.

Lincoln listening to music on Gabe's headphones at 7 months old.
I enjoy music. I always have. I used to sing in my car seat as a baby, according to my parents. They thought I was crying and would turn down the music and I would be quiet and then they would turn the music back on and I would start making noise again. They soon figured out that I was trying to sing along with the songs on the radio. As a child I used to sit in the walk-in hall closet in our house and listen to music on the headphones. It was a cool closet. It was small enough to be considered a closet, but big enough for 2 people to stand in there and still have room. On one wall of the closet my parents kept their nice coats hung up and on the opposite wall there were built in shelves and on the third wall there was a little window. We kept our stereo system and games on the shelves. We had a stool in there too and I would plug headphones into the stereo and listen to music on full blast and lip sync along. I would also go in there to study when I was in middle school since it was quiet and secluded. Once I was in middle school and had my own room and learned how to download music I would put music on in my room either on my computer or on my radio and I would lip sync and dance around in my room. I did this all through middle school and high school. I just enjoyed listening to music and dancing. It was a good outlet for me & a good workout.

I don't enjoy an one kind of music. I find songs or an artist or a genre that I like and listen to it for awhile and then move on to something else. I like all kinds of music genres and all different musical artists. If you looked through my MP3 player you would probably be a bit confused by all the different music on it. It's just a mix of songs and genres that I am currently enjoying. When I don't have Lincoln in the car with me I listen to my music turned up almost all the way. I sing along or lip sync along and just have fun. Music has always been kind of one of my escapes or outlet. We all have them. Ways that we just go off into our own world and leave all of our worries behind. When I listen to music that's what I do. I just enjoy the song I'm listening to and go off into my own world. I don't worry about anything, I don't think about anything. I just listen to the music and enjoy it.

Now I'm just hoping that this song won't be stuck in my head for too much longer. As much as I enjoy it, I'm sure Gabe is getting sick of me singing the chorus over and over again. Oh well, I'll find some songs to listen to with Lincoln while we are out running errands tomorrow. Usually listening to other songs helps get one song that stuck in my head out of my head.

Blogly Question(s):

Have you ever had a song or a part of a song stuck in your head? for how long? Do you enjoy listening to music? Does it help you forget about any worries you have while you're listening to it?

Monday, October 22, 2012

It's Sunday & I'm Getting Ready For....

It's Sunday & here is what I'm getting ready for this week:

  • Work tomorrow. Yay! I have no idea how busy it will be, if at all. 
  • Rain! It just started raining here tonight and I'm so happy about it. We have been needing a good rain for awhile. 
  • A trip to the beach, again. That's if it's not raining. I kind of hope it rains all week, just because we need it so bad. But I'm also hoping it clears up on Wednesday so I can take Lincoln to the beach again.
  • Another Costco trip. I will be doing returns this time & taking my engagement ring in to get repaired. I lost the center stone a few months ago and finally took it in and they called me to let me know that they are able to fix it, which makes me very happy.
  • Date night on Saturday. Gabe & I have tickets to go see Bill Engvall. I'm so super excited! We didn't get a chance to see him last time he came through because Lincoln was only 2 weeks old and when tickets went on sale I was pregnant and had no idea if my baby would be born on time or late.
  • Relaxation. I am hoping to relax some this week since last week was so hectic with getting all the last minute things prepared for the fundraiser, which was yesterday & went great.
  • Getting back into the habit of eating regular meals. With all that's been going on in our personal lives and with getting the fundraiser I haven't been eating that great or even much at all. I've been stressed about family stuff and just so busy taking care of my tasks for the fundraiser. I haven't been feeling great and I know it's because of my eating habits over the past few days. 
  • A trip to the library, I'm sure. I've requested a few Halloween books and movies for Lincoln. It's just over a week away and I've really been trying to get us all in the Halloween mood/spirit. 
and that's what I'm getting ready for this week.
What are you all getting ready for this week?


Wednesday, October 17, 2012

You Are Not Going Out Wearing THAT!

When I was a teenager I will admit that I dressed inappropriately. I wore little tank tops, fishnet shirts with only my bra underneath, low-rise pants, and other items of clothing that were not appropriate for me to wear at that age or to school. As I grew up and had a child and gained some weight I dressed more appropriately. I have learned that there is a time and a place and an age for wearing slinky clothing. The classroom is not that place and teen years is not that age. I don't have a daughter, I don't know if I ever will. The worst thing I have to worry about with clothing on my child is saggy pants. That doesn't not concern me nearly as much as the kind of clothing that is marketed to young girls. And when I say young I'm not talking about teenagers anymore.

I don't know if any of you have seen or heard about Elizabeth Hurley's new line of swimsuits for girls. I think they're totally inappropriate for the age group they're being marketed to. They're tiny and slinky and just not right for little girls to be wearing. For the majority of my childhood I wore a single piece bathing suit. At one point my mom did allow me to get a bikini at around the age of 7, but it wasn't tiny and it covered everything it was supposed to and didn't show off my not-even-there-yet cleavage. It was an appropriate bikini for a girl my age.

Elizabeth Hurley swimsuits for girls
In some ways I am glad that I have a son. I am just appalled at the clothes that they have for sale for little girls. I still shop in the juniors section when I buy clothes for myself and the clothing at the stores I shop at in the juniors section are not horrible. At least I don't think they are. It seems like the people that make clothes for little girls need to take a hint from the people making clothes for teen girls. Except in the shorts department. When I was a kid I wore shorts that went almost down to my knees. Now the shorts they make for teen girls looks like denim underwear and it's been that way since I was in middle school. It's just horrible. I understand it gets hot here in California in the summertime, but I really don't think shorts need to be that short for teen girls. I have been able to find shorts in the juniors department that do go down to my knees, but it's hard to find appropriate length shorts for girls anymore.

I just feel that girls are being sexualized at too young of an age. I feel like the clothing companies have their heads screwed on backwards and still think that women are just sexual objects and that we should all be reminded of this when we see little girls in short shorts and short skirts and skimpy bikinis. It's disgusting, I wish they wouldn't make clothes like this for little girls. I know it's the parents choice of how they dress their children and what they dress them in. But this option of clothing shouldn't even be out there. We shouldn't have the option of dressing kindergarten age girls up as, basically, prostitutes. I don't think we should cover them from head to toe either. I just think that children should dress their age. They should wear appropriate clothing that is not only appropriate for wearing out in public, but also appropriate for their age.

Blogly Question(s):

What do you all think of the clothing that is being marketed to young girls?

Monday, October 15, 2012

It's Called Parenting, You Should Try It Sometime

I've seen this a couple of times on pro spanking memes. I do not spank and I probably never will. I don't think it does any good and I would know from personal experience. When I did not behave as a child I was spanked. It didn't do any good because I acted out all through my childhood and teen years. If it had worked I would have been a much better teenager and I probably would have listened to my parents. I don't agree with spanking a child, I think there are other and better ways to discipline a child when they are acting out. I have friends and family that spank their children and even though I don't agree with it I do understand that those parents do agree with it.

Now just because I don't agree with it doesn't mean that I haven't gotten to a point of feeling the need to spank. There have been times when Lincoln has been acting out and not listening and I've thought for a split second that maybe a spanking will get him to listen to me. But then I think and realize that it's really not going to fix anything. I will feel guilty for hitting my child and Lincoln will be upset and sad that I hit him. I mean really that's what spanking is, hitting. In my opinion, hitting our children only teaches them that it's okay to hit instead of use their words. About a year ago or so there was a quote that people were sharing on Facebook that went something like this: I'd rather go to jail for spanking my child than they go because I didn't. I saw this on a few people's pages that were on my friends list. It upset me and confused me some too. It was clear that whoever had originally written this quote didn't know or didn't think about the fact that with all of our actions we are teaching our children. I mean if you teach your child that hitting is okay, then aren't you basically teaching them that violence is okay? and then wouldn't they be more likely to grow up and be violent and then go to jail for being so? I know it's kind of a long shot, but that's my logic at least. It just doesn't seem right to me.

When Lincoln is misbehaving I talk to him and explain to him why it's not appropriate to behave that way and that if he doesn't stop then privileges are going to be taken away. He understands this and this gets him to listen. I have also stopped yelling at him, because I have learned that that doesn't help either. Yelling at a child only teaches them that it's okay to yell. There are times when it is appropriate to yell, like when a child is about to run out in to the middle of the street or touch something hot. But when you're angry and frustrated because your child won't listen that is the time to take a few deep breaths, get down to their eye level, and explain to them that their behavior at that time is not appropriate and why it's not appropriate. I have learned that speaking to a child calmly, even when we are near or at our breaking point, gets them to listen the majority of the time. If Lincoln doesn't listen then I take him into his room, sit him in my lap and tell him that we are going to sit there together until he calms down and decides to listen to me.

I understand being at a breaking point with your child. I also see that being spanked as a child has taught me that that's an okay thing to do as a form of discipline. But, in my mind and my heart I know it's not okay and when I feel like lashing out and spanking my child because he's not listening and won't listening I take a second to think and tell myself it's not okay to spank him. It's not going to teach him anything other than it's okay to hit people when you are frustrated with them. I also know that I have a fairly easy child that behaves him self the majority of the time. Of course, that might have something to do with the fact that we feed him a pretty healthy diet. But I'm not going to get in to that tonight, I'll save that for another post.

Blogly Question(s):

What do you think about spanking?

Sunday, October 14, 2012

It's Sunday & I'm Getting Ready For...

It's Sunday and here is what I'm getting ready for this week:

  • Work tomorrow. It was nice to have last week off and sleep in. But I am back to work tomorrow and I'm sure it'll be a little busy since I wasn't there last week.
  • A possible trip out to Doran Beach with Lincoln. Thought it would be nice for just the two of us to go out there together. 
  • One final fundraiser meeting on Friday. I'm so excited for the fundraiser!
  • Baking on Friday afternoon for the Bake Sale we'll be having at the fundraiser. I will be making my famous (or rather infamous) White Chocolate Rice Krispy Treats, or as Gabe calls them my Heart Attack Rice Krispy Treats. I will also be making Lincoln's favorite: Monkey Cupcakes. They're chocolate peanut butter banana with peanut butter buttercream frosting. 
  • One of my best friends coming over on Friday afternoon, as well. He'll be dropping off his donation for the fundraiser and hanging out for a bit and tasting the baked goods I'll be making. 
  • Saturday morning Gabe will be picking up my friend's daughter and we're going to watch her while her mom is at work and then take her with us to the fundraiser. I'm sure Lincoln will be happy to have a friend over for the entire day.
  • Saturday afternoon I have the fundraiser. I'll be getting there an hour before it starts to help ther other mommies with set up and preparations. I'm really looking forward to it and just can't wait to see the turn out and how much money we make for this wonderful family and how much fun everyone has. It should be lots of fun and it's for a really really great cause. I'm so proud of all of us parents for putting this together for this wonderful little boy and his mommies. I'm glad that they have us to do this for them and I'm glad that we all have each other. It just proves what we will do for each other in times of need.
and that's what I'm getting ready for. It doesn't seem like a lot, but I'm making sure we don't over do it this week since we have quite a bit to do on Friday and Saturday. Overall, I think it'll be a nice week with a wonderful event at the end of it to look forward to.

What are you getting ready for this week?


Friday, October 12, 2012

This Again!?

So, now I'm sick with the cold Lincoln had. Another head cold two months after getting over the last one. Really hoping that a head cold every two months for me does not turn into a pattern. Thankfully, Lincoln is all better. Most of plans for this week got cancelled due to me being sick. Luckily, I got to get out with Lincoln on Wednesday to see one of my best friends and her daughter. Lincoln had lots of fun playing with his buddy and I had a wonderful time catching up with my friend. But, I missed a fundraiser meeting yesterday and we're not making it to the opening of my friend's paintball shop this evening. Hoping I can get enough rest and be all better by Sunday so I can take Lincoln to a birthday party for his friend that he just saw on Wednesday.

I will say, though, being sick as a parent really does not work. Last December all of us got sick one right after the other. It was the week of Christmas too, no less. Lincoln woke up the Sunday before Christmas with a 24 hour flu bug. Very early Monday morning Gabe woke up with it and then I realized I had it later that day. Lincoln was already mostly better by the time it hit Gabe & I. It was really hard both of us feeling miserable while our child wants to play and is feeling just fine. We all just lay in bed that evening watching movies. I really hope we don't get something like that again this year. Even though I feel miserable during a head cold, I know I would feel so much worse if I was throwing up. At least with a head cold I can just put on a movie and fall asleep for a little bit.

Since I am trying to get some rest I am going to keep this short and I don't know if I'll post tomorrow. So, I hope you all have a wonderful weekend and stay well.

Blogly Question(s):

Has your household had to deal with colds this fall yet? Is it difficult for you when you're sick and the kids aren't?

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

So What Wednesday

So What Wednesday

This week I'm say So What if....

  • I was so anxious/excited to go see one of my best friends today and have a play date for our kiddos that I didn't eat until I got home. My anxiety messes with my stomach and just makes me feel like not eating. I'm also paying for it right now with a headache.
  • We are just over a week away from our fundraiser. I know things are coming together and I'm super excited & optimistic for it, but I'm not really going to believe everything until I see it all set up.
  • Lincoln & I have been sleeping in this week. He's at the tail end of his cold and still needs lots of rest. Plus, I think he's going through a growth spurt. 
  • We're super busy this week and I know we're all going to be exhausted come Sunday evening. I'm looking forward to all the fun we're going to have and all the time Lincoln gets to play with his friends.
  • I've been having some bloggers/writers block. I guess it comes with the territory. I do my best to power through it and just find things to write about anyway. 
  • We're going to be doing tons of driving this week due to all of our activities and all I can think about is how much gas is right now. 
  • We'd really like to move and get closer to an area that has better job opportunities. Us moving depends on a few things though, so it's kind of a waiting game right now.
  • I haven't worked on my book in about a month or so. Even though I know where I'm going with it and I have an ending written out, I just need to have a break from it every once in awhile. 
  • As much as I miss Lincoln whenever I go out by myself for some me time or Gabe and I go out for a date night, which we're doing Friday, I know that it's good for us to have some time away from our little guy. It's also good for Lincoln to have some time with his grandparents.
  • I just saw one of my best friends today and I already miss her. I'll get to see her again on Sunday. I just really enjoy getting together with her and getting our kids together to play, as well.
And that's what I'm saying So What to this week.
What are all of you saying So What to this week?


Monday, October 8, 2012

One Long Weekend & One Crazy Busy Week Ahead

a beautiful day at Doran Beach
I know I said I was going to write a post yesterday, but this weekend ended up being long and a little busy. On Friday night Gabe & I stayed up until 4am with a friend. We never stay up that late or, at least, we haven't stayed up that late in a couple of years. Sometimes it's fun to stay up late, especially when you have a friend over. We stayed up late chatting and watching a TV show. Lincoln woke Gabe up the next morning at 8:30am, I woke up 20 minutes later. We had breakfast and then headed out to the beach. We decided to go to Doran Beach. We've never been there before and it's a regional park, so since I have a regional park pass we figured why not put it to use. This beach is amazing and wonderful. It's flat and a bit warmer than the beaches further up the coast. The four of us (we took Rusty) walked up and down the beach. Lincoln chased seagulls and dug holes and we all played in the sand. We also flew Lincoln's kite for a little bit. It was so much fun and so beautiful and just perfect weather for a day at the beach.

After a few hours of playing and lounging on the beach we headed over to Costco. We had to do a shopping and also get a birthday present for my friend's daughter who is almost exactly 4 months younger than Lincoln. If you haven't guessed yet, I love shopping. I always have. So, Costco is always fun for me no matter what we're getting. After Costco we headed over to Target to pick up a couple smaller things that we can't get at Costco. Then we headed home. It was a long day of activities and errands, but it was a fun day.

Lincoln flying his kite with Gabe's help.
Yesterday morning Lincoln woke up with a very mucus-y cough. He was congested, as well. He was coughing so hard that he was throwing up mucus and any food that he had eaten. We always feel so bad for him when he's sick because there isn't a whole lot we can do. Just have to let the cold run it's course and keep him as comfortable as possible. He had a high fever a few days ago and it broke on the second day. We figured he was all better, but I think having a busy day and running around on the beach was a bit much and caused his cold to come back. Luckily, he has gotten lots of sleep and rest and is doing much better today. I have to get him all better by the end of the day tomorrow because the rest of this week is super busy.

On Wednesday we have a playdate planned with my friend and her daughter. These are the friends who we bought the birthday present for. We haven't seen them since July, so it'll be nice for me to spend time with a friend and for Lincoln and his friend to get some time to play together. We would have seen each other back in August, but she thought her daughter had a cold and then it turned out to be allergies and then Lincoln & I got a head cold and then she left for a trip down to Southern California. She got stuck there due to a car accident she was involved in and just got back a couple weeks ago. So, after not seeing her in 3 months I finally get to see her and Lincoln gets to see his friend. It should be lots of fun and lots of catching up to do.

Lincoln & I enjoying the beautiful weather at the beach.
On Thursday I have a fundraiser meeting to go to and Lincoln will be coming with me. He will get to play with more of his friends. We're just over a week away from the event so this will be one of our final meetings. I am so proud of all of us and happy with all of the progress we are making. I'm feeling better about a lot of things and feeling optimistic and excited about the whole event. I just can't wait to raise money for friends and their little boy. It's such a great cause that we are raising money for and we are raising money for wonderful people and a wonderful family. I am glad that these are the women I have as friends in my life. Women and mothers and parents that when another one of us is in need rally around and figure out what they can do to help. It's a wonderful community of parents and I really don't know what I would do without them and I am glad that I am part of this group and community and able to help a family in need.

On Friday Gabe & I have a date night. We have not had a date night in months. We actually get two date nights this month. Friday we are going to the opening of our friend's paintball store. I'm super proud of him and excited for him. He has been working really hard at starting his own paintball business. He has been working without a store front as a paintball technician for almost a year now. Now he has a store front and it's just really exciting. They're having a party and it'll be fun to go to and check out the new shop. I've only seen pictures as they've been putting it together. I cannot wait to see it in person and see the final thing all put together.

Lincoln burying Rusty at the beach.
This upcoming weekend has a lot going on with it too. But I will write about all of that over the weekend. Tomorrow will be another day of relaxation and rest to ensure that Lincoln will be feeling all better for his playdates this week. Even though this week is going to be crazy busy I look forward to it. We haven't been this busy in a long time. We also have something going on every weekend this month. It's going to be a fun month and it seems like our schedule gets busier every time we enter the holiday season. It's nice to have down time like we have lately, but it will also be nice to go back to having lots of activities to attend. I'm looking forward to it and I will share all of it with you that are reading this. Hope you all had a great weekend and have a fun-filled week ahead like me.

Blogly Question(s):

Do you and your family seem to get busier as you enter the holiday season or are you usually just busy all the time or not really busy at all?

Friday, October 5, 2012

Bloggers Block

I keep wanting to write a post about something important or interesting but I can't think of how to start it or word it. I think a lot of it has to do with being so busy with the fundraiser. I was super stressed about it earlier this week. But once I talked to my friend that is running the whole thing I felt a lot better. I am excited and optimistic about the whole thing and plus it's for a good cause. I know I've been talking about it a lot here, but that's the big that's going on in my life right now. I know I've been seriously slacking on posting and I feel bad about that. I am thinking about topics to write on and I have a couple that I would like to write posts on. I think maybe Sunday I will sit down and hand write out at least one of them. Hand-writing something out seems to help me. I can get my ideas out easier and them seem to flow out on to the page. I'm glad that you are all still reading and I promise there will be more interesting posts to come. I won't keep posting about how stressed I am and how I'm working hard on this fundraiser. Seriously. So, basically I'm posting just to say that I'm still here I haven't forgotten about this blog and I will continue to write about new topics. I really appreciate all of you that continue to read this and follow me. It really means a lot to me. I'm really going to work on getting back to posting at least once a day or every other day. If there is a topic you would like me to write about feel free to leave me a comment. Or if you have any questions or suggestions about anything pertaining to this blog feel free to comment. Thanks again for reading and I'm looking forward to what the future brings in posts for this blog.

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

So What Wednesday

So What Wednesday

This week I'm saying So What if....

  • We've been watching way too much TV today. Lincoln is sick, again, and this time he has a fever and so we need to rest. 
  • I've been staying up until about 2am the past few nights. I just haven't been tired. Lincoln & I get up at about 9am, so it's not like I'm sleeping in super late.
  • I've been watching trashy TV, Jersey Shore mostly. I enjoy how ridiculous these people are and since I have pretty much zero drama in my life it's interesting and funny to watch other people's stupid drama.
  • I've been slacking on posting here. I just have been so stressed out lately that I don't want to write posts that would bring all of you down. I am going to think about some happier topics I can write about.
  • Mine & Lincoln's Amazon wishlists have almost 200 items on them, each. I go on there and see stuff that I want for both of us, it's like extreme window shopping. Plus, this way I'm not spending money.
  • I just went grocery shopping on Monday and am going to have to go again this evening. I've really been trying to only go once a week so that we can save money.
  • I'm getting pretty much no support from Gabe on the fundraiser. All of us mommies that are putting it together are supporting each other. 
  • I can't eat candy anymore. I know Halloween will probably be a little hard, but it just means that if I want something sweet I have to figure out something healthy and that makes me feel better.
And that's what I'm saying So What to this week.
What are you saying So What to this week?

Monday, October 1, 2012

Frustration Makes Me Frustrated

Lincoln & my dad. July 2012.
So, last week I was dealing with some serious frustration. I was working with my dad on a flyer for the fundraiser. I got all the details and emailed them to him and he put it all together. I asked the group of mommies I'm working with what info needed to be put on the flyer and I double checked just to be sure. The details of the flyer got changed about 3 times before it was just right. During the changing of it I asked questions and felt that I wasn't getting any straight forward, clear answers on what I should change. I was so frustrated that when I called my dad during the changes of the flyer I was almost in tears. He calmed me down, though, and explained that he had done things like this many, many times. He is a professional graphic designer after all. The flyer got done and it looks great. My dad is one of the best problem solvers I know and he almost always has great advice when I'm frustrated and when I'm not.

I will say, though, in thinking about being frustrated I realized something. I have been frustrated over things I've been working on lately. My child has not really frustrated me, at all. Is that wrong to say? I almost feel like I'm bragging a little bit. I mean I read all these mommy blogs and forums and most of the moms talk about how they get frustrated with things that their child does. Like the huge messes that children make and us mommies end up picking up ourselves or not listening when we ask them to do or not to do something. We also get frustrated with ourselves on how we react to these things that our children do. Like when we yell or discipline in a way that makes both parent and child feel bad. I used to have a problem with yelling whenever Lincoln frustrated me in the past. It didn't work and I felt really bad afterwards. I haven't yelled at Lincoln or Gabe in quite a few months and I'm really proud of myself. I will say I have talked sternly to Lincoln when he is not listening, but I haven't gotten mad or yelled at him. I talk to him in a tone where he understands that I mean business, but he listens better and in the end he learns why he has to listen to me about whatever he wasn't listening to me about.

Lincoln asking me "Why?" about a giant tree trunk in the stream by the beach.
In the past couple of months Lincoln has really gotten into asking "Why?" whenever we tell him to do or not to do something. He will ask it over and over again no matter how in depth we explain something. At first I got frustrated with this and would just throw up my hands in defeat. But in the past few weeks when he asks "Why?" we answer to the best of our ability and if he asks it again we tell him "because that's just the way it is and I can't explain any further" and if he asks again after that we just change the subject. It really seems to work. His asking "Why?" all the time is one of the reasons we have started having him pick a topic every week to every other week that he wants to learn about. So far we have learned about turtles, rhinos, and bones & animal anatomy, respectively. Our next topic is waterfalls, which I'm looking forward to. Not only is Lincoln learning about things he is interested in, but I'm learning along with him.

We also have to realize, in parenting, we parents are not the only ones who get frustrated. Our children get frustrated, as well. Sometimes this triggers us to get frustrated, not with the child necessarily but perhaps with the situation. Children are little people and they are figuring out how the world around them works (of course, I think even as adults we are still doing that) and when something doesn't work they way they want it to or the way they think it should they get frustrated. I know Lincoln gets frustrated when he can't figure out how one of his toys works and he will sometimes throw a little fit and we will ask him what's wrong. He will show us and we will ask him to politely ask for help. All of this is done in a calm matter so that he learns to calmly and politely ask for help. We then show him how what he can't figure out works and once we do that he can usually do it on his own. Even as adults we sometimes get frustrated when we can't figure out how something works. 

frustrated Lincoln. I'm sure we've all felt like this at one time or another.
My latest frustration came today at work. My boss is moving and we are changing her address on everything. I will say that AT&T makes it very difficult to do this online, which is the way they recommend. You have to set up an online account with them and then link your specific phone number or whatever kind of package you have with them to your online account and then you're supposed to confirm this. I couldn't find anywhere a confirmation, not in our email or anywhere in the messages on our account. I tried to link them up several times and it just would not work. I got a little frustrated because the internet is, usually, supposed to be the easiest way to do stuff like this. So, I ended up just writing down the 800 number for my boss. I feel that my job has helped me learn better problem solving skills and if it doesn't work one way try another way.

We all get frustrated at times in life, it's inevitable. There are going to be situations and people that frustrate us and we all have to learn how to deal with it. You know, the many of us question math class in middle school and high school. I'm sure that many of you at one time or another asked your math teacher "when am I going to use this in real life?". Well folks, here is where you're going to use it: when you're frustrated and need to use problem solving skills. We learn problem solving in math and we use quite often in real life whether we realize it or not (Gabe made me aware of this a few weeks ago). So, when you get frustrated just remember to take a few deep breaths and then use your problem solving skills (I know it isn't always this simple, but most of the time it can be).

Blogly Question(s):

What frustrates you the most? Do you get frustrated a lot? How do you deal with your frustration?